Death (mourning/eulogizing), eye contact
My dad's dog, Abbie, passed away this morning. She came into our family when I was... Maybe seven, and she lived a long and wonderful life. She was a real queen of a dog, and we treated her like it. She was an amazing dog, and I'm going to miss her for the rest of my life.
Courtesy of @wintgenstein
Copy/pasted introduction from my other account
So I'm Amber. I'm #trans (she/her). I came over from Tumblr because their new policy is (unintentionally?) targeting #queer content and I'd like a place where I'm safe to be myself. I'm into #science and especially #space, #dnd, and #programming, as well as #leftist #politics and #activism. My best friend is my #dog, Lena.
The thing is, being trans is awesome. Being non-binary is awesome. Like, we're the folks who are brave enough to kick the cultural institution of gender in the fucking balls, spit in its face, and redefine who we are in spite of everything the world tells us. Why should we try to be cis, even if we have the luxury of being binary and pretending to be cis is an option? We're fucking great. Being trans is fucking great, except for the way cis people treat us. We're not less than. If anything, we're greater than. So fuck off with your notions of passing. We're better than that.
Transphobia within the trans community, enbyphobia
Like, the cultural concept of passing is inherently transphobic, because it creates this idea that the highest goal of any trans person should be to be seen as cis. The idea of considering one's self to no longer be trans once that goal is achieved is pretty explicitly implying that to be trans is undesirable. It's also enbyphobic, because it applies this value to all trans people, including the ones for whom "passing" means either not transitioning at all, or transitioning in a way that still causes them dysphoria. Applying passing as a "should" places pressure on non-binary people to live with dysphoria, and that's the same as telling a binary trans person not to transition.
Transphobia within the trans community, enbyphobia
Ugh, I feel like I've been getting swamped in like... Really binarist, assimilationist viewpoints from my various trans communities lately. Like, I've seen a lot of "I'm done transitioning so I'm not trans any more, I'm leaving the community" stuff lately, as well as a lot of "don't call people attractive if they don't pass as cis" stuff, and it's all really gross and invalidating for me, but also just super transphobic and enbyphobic from a perspective of starting from the assumption of a hierarchy existing with cis people at the top, then passing binary trans people, then nonpassing binary and non-binary people at the bottom, and like... What the fuck, folks?
Relationship stuff (+++)
I just saw a social media post my partner made a couple days ago about wanting to kiss all my freckles, and uh, wow...
I love em so much. I'm seriously so incredibly lucky to have em.
(Also, to provide context, I have so, so many freckles. Like, seriously, probably upwards of a million.)
political violence, climate crisis
Massive-scale direct climate action when?
Like, seriously, why don't we simply... Overthrow capitalism and stop burning fossil fuels for energy? I honestly think if we could organize on a global scale, we could do it. Even with just the folks we have on our side right now. Like, shit, we're actively passing points of no return when it comes to the climate, and the whole thing is just continuing to accelerate. Did y'all know that over 50% of carbon emissions have happened *after* 1992? And 85% has been since WWII? Like, seriously, it's getting worse. We're getting worse. And there are already like a billion people who are going to be climate refugees by 2050, assuming things *don't* get any worse.
Book recommendation, climate crisis, alcohol, death mention
Book recommendation: The Uninhabitable Earth by David Wallace-Wells. I'm uh, only three pages in, and I had to take a break and grab a drink, because uh... in three pages it managed to bring home the point that we're all going to die and it's *our fault* better than 24 years of knowing about the problem.
Hey, how does one keep bra straps from slipping down? I recently got a real bra that seems to fit, but the straps keep falling down. My partner told me to adjust them tighter, but it seems like all that does is make my shoulders hurt. They just keep sliding down. Is it like... a posture issue? Do I just need to get a different bra? Like, I feel like it would be a shitton better if the straps crossed in the back.
Transphobia, marked up psychology textbook
Oh... oh my. Mentioning changing attitudes towards "gays, lesbians, and bisexuals," leaving out trans people entirely, and equating two-spirit people to bisexual men? Innnteresting. Time to check the index... Yup, "gaydar" is in there, but not "transgender," and in fact, every mention of gender in the entire book is the same as this one.
Trans, lesbi-ish, left anarchist
HRT June 2018
D&D, space, and politics are my biggest interests.
I'm probably autistic.
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